Non 12-Step

The website of Dr. Patrick Carnes, leader in the sexual addiction field, has extensive books, materials and direction for those seeking
help with sexual addiction or sexual offending.
The Society for the Advancement of Sexual Health is a national organization of professionals trained in the treatment of sexual addiction and sexual offending.  The website contains articles, helpful links and a database of therapists and treatment programs listed state by state in the United States and internationally.
The International Institute for Trauma and Addiction Professionals provides formal training to professionals in the treatment of sexual addiction.  The website offers general education, resources, a therapist locator to find a CSAT (Certified Sex Addiction Therapist) in your area and information on relevant workshops and events.
Visit this website to take the sexual addiction screening test (SAST), which is designed to assist in the assessment of sexually compulsive behavior which may indicate the presence of sex addiction or sexual addiction risk assessment (SARA), an anonymous and private sex addiction self-assessment. SARA compares your answers with thousands of other sex addicts who have preceded you in treatment, allowing you the opportunity to compare your life with the lives of others who share the same problem. (The Association of Partners of Sex Addicts Trauma Specialists)
APSATS is a non-profit organization dedicated to the professional training and certification, public education, research and advocacy for treatment of sex addiction-induced trauma.



Sex Addicts Anonymous (SAA)
P.O. Box 70949
Houston, TX 77270
(713) 869-4902
SAA is a fellowship of men and women who share their experience, strength and hope with each other so they may overcome their sexual addiction and help others recover.

Sexual Compulsives Anonymous (SCA)
P.O. Box 1585, Old Chelsea Station
New York, NY 10011
1-800 / 977-HEAL
Sexual Compulsives Anonymous is a fellowship of men and women who share their experience, strength and hope with each other, that they may solve their common problem and help others to recover from
sexual compulsion.

Sexaholics Anonymous (SA)
P.O. Box 111910
Nashville, TN 37222-1910
(615) 311-6230
Sexaholics Anonymous is a fellowship of men and women who share their experience, strength and hope with each other that they may solve their common problem and help others recover.  The only requirement for membership is a desire to stop lusting and become sexually sober and help others achieve sexual sobriety.  SA defines any form of sex with one’s self or with partners other than the spouse as addictive and destructive.  Sexaholics Anonymous is for those who know they have no other option but to stop.

Sex and Love Addicts Anonymous (SLAA)
Fellowship-Wide Services
1550 NE Loop 410 Ste. 118
(210) 828-7900
Sex and Love Addicts Anonymous, or S.L.A.A., is a program for anyone who suffers from an addictive compulsion to engage in or avoid sex, love, or emotional attachment.


S-Anon/S-Ateen International Family Groups
P.O. Box 11242 Nashville, TN 37222-1242
(615) 833-3152
S-Anon is a program of recovery for those who have been affected by someone else’s sexual behavior based on the twelve steps and twelve traditions of Alcoholics Anonymous.

ISO of COSA • 9219 Katy Freeway, Suite 212 • Houston TX 77024
(866) 899-COSA (2672)
COSA is a twelve-step recovery program for men and women whose lives have been affected by compulsive sexual behavior.

child abuse and sexual abuse

Survivors of Incest Anonymous (SIA)
P.O. Box 21817
Baltimore, MD 21222
(410) 282-3400

Adult Survivors of Child Abuse Anonymous (ASCAA)
ASCAA is a a recovery program for all survivors of childhood abuse and trauma who wish to heal through applying a new design for living based on the 12 Steps & 12 Traditions of AA.

Substance Abuse & Chemical Dependency

Alcoholics Anonymous

A.A. World Services, Inc.
475 Riverside Drive at West 120th St., 11th Floor
New York, NY 10115
(212) 870-3400

Narcotics Anonymous (NA)
PO Box 9999
Van Nuys, California USA 91409


Al-Anon Family Group Headquarters, Inc
1600 Corporate Landing Parkway
Virginia Beach, VA 23454-5617
Telephone: (757) 563-1600
Friends and families of problem drinkers find understanding and support at Al-Anon and Alateen meetings.

Adult Children of Alcoholics (ACA)
P.O. Box 3216
Torrance, CA 90510
(310) 534-1815
Adult Children of Alcoholics is a recovery program for adults whose lives were affected as a result of being raised in an alcoholic or other dysfunctional family. It is based on the success of Alcoholics Anonymous and employs its version of the Twelve Steps and Twelve Traditions.

Recommended Reading


Thirty Days to Hope & Freedom: The Essential Guide for Beginning Recovery & Preventing Relapse by Milton S. Magness
A Gentle Path Through the Twelve Steps: The Classic Guide for All People in the Process of Recovery By Patrick Carnes
A Gentle Path Through the Twelve Principles: Living the Values Behind the Steps by Patrick Carnes
Always Turned On: Sex Addiction in the Digital Age by Robert Weiss and Jennifer Schneider
The Storm of Sex Addiction by Connie Lofgreen
Sexual Anorexia: Overcoming Sexual Self-Hatred by Patrick Carnes
Untangling the Web by Rob Weiss and Jennifer P. Schneider
Out of the Shadows by Patrick Carnes
Don’t Call it Love by Patrick Carnes
Contrary To Love by Patrick Carnes
Facing the Shadow by Patrick Carnes
In the Shadows of the Net by Patrick Carnes
Cruise Control by Rob Weiss
Recovery Start Kit by Patrick Carnes
Lust Anger Love: Understanding Sexual Addiction and the Road to Healthy Intimacy by Maureen Canning


Partners of Sex Addicts:

Mending a Shattered Heart by Stephanie Carnes
Back from Betrayal by Jennifer Schneider
Disclosing Secrets by Deb Corley and Jennifer Schneider
Living and Loving After Betrayal: How to Heal from Emotional Abuse, Deceit, Infidelity, and Chronic Resentment, by Steven Stosny
Deceived by Claudia Black
Your Sexually Addicted Spouse by Barbara Stephens
Post Traumatic Infidelity Disorder by Dr. Dennis Ortman

Love, Sex and Intimacy

The Five Love Languages: How to Express Heartfelt Commitment to Your Mate by Gary Chapman
Resurrecting Sex: Solving Sexual Problems & Revolutionizing Your Relationship by David Schnarch
Passionate Marriage: Sex, Love and Intimacy in Emotionally Committed Relationships by David Schnarch
Mating in Captivity: Unlocking Erotic Intelligence by Esther Perel
Open Hearts: Renewing Relationships With Recovery, Romance & Reality by Debra Laaser, Mark Laaser and Patrick Carnes
Hold Me Tight: Seven Conversations for a Lifetime of Love by Dr. Sue Johnson
Why We Love: The Nature and Chemistry of Romantic Love by Helen Fisher



Closer Together, Further Apart: The Effect of Technology and the Internet on Parenting, Work and Relationships
by Robert Weiss and Jennifer P. Schneider
Good Pictures Bad Pictures: Porn-Proofing Today’s Young Kids by Kristen Jenson and Gail Poyner


Sex, Lies And Forgiveness By Jennifer Schneider
Open Hearts By Patrick Carnes
Hope And Freedom For Sexual Addicts And Their Partners By Milton Magness*
Erotic Intelligence:  Igniting Hot, Healthy Sex While In Recovery From Sex Addiction By Alexandra Katehakis
The Couple’s Guide To Intimacy: How Sexual Reintegration Therapy Can Help Your Relationship Heal By Drs. Bill & Ginger Bercaw
Intimate Betrayal: Hope And Healing For Couples Recovering From Infidelity And Sexual Addiction By Dr. Michael Don Howard
The Five Love Languages: How To Express Heartfelt Commitment To Your Mate By Gary Chapman
Resurrecting Sex: Solving Sexual Problems & Revolutionizing Your Relationship By David Schnarch
Passionate Marriage: Sex, Love And Intimacy In Emotionally Committed Relationships By David Schnarch
Mating In Captivity: Unlocking Erotic Intelligence By Esther Perel
Facing Heartbreak By Stefanie Carnes, Mari A. Lee & Anthony Rodriguez
A House Interrupted: A Wife’s Story Of Recovering From Her Husband’s Sex Addiction By Maurita Corcoran
After The Affair: Healing The Pain And Rebuilding Trust When A Partner Has Been Unfaithful By Janis Abrahms Spring
Not Just Friends: Rebuilding Trust And Recovering Your Sanity After Infidelity By Shirley Glass


Torn Asunder: Recovering from Extramarital Affairs, by Dave Carder
A Celebration of Sex: A Guide to Enjoying God’s Gift of Sexual Intimacy, by Dr. Douglas Rosenau
Shadows of the Cross: A Christian Companion to Facing the Shadow, by Craig Cashwell
Out of the Doghouse for Christian Men – A Redemptive Guide for Men Caught Cheating                                                                              The Book of Forgiving by Desmond Tutu and Mpho Tutu


The Elusive Orgasm: A Woman’s Guide to Why She Can’t and How She Can Orgasm by Dr. Vivienne Cass


Healing Trauma: Restoring the Wisdom of the Body by Peter Levine
The Body Keeps the Score by Bessel van der Kolk
When He’s Married to Mom: How to Help Mother – Enmeshed Men Open Their Hearts to True Love and Commitment by Ken Adams
Silently Seduced: When Parents Make Their Children Partners (Understanding Covert Incest) by Ken Adams
The Drama of the Gifted Child: The Search for the True Self by Alice Miller
Facing Codependence: What It Is, Where It Comes From, How It Sabotages Our Lives by Pia Mellody
The Emotional Incest Syndrome: What to Do When a Parent’s Love Rules Your Life by Dr. Patricia Love
Growing Yourself Back Up: Understanding Emotional Regression by John Lee


Ready to Heal by Kelly McDaniel
Women, Sex, and Addiction by Charlotte Davis Kasl
Facing Love Addiction by Pia Mellody
The Emotional Incest Syndrome: What to Do When a Parent’s Love Rules Your Life by Dr. Patricia Love
Growing Yourself Back Up: Understanding Emotional Regression by John Lee